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Leah's Mothering Style

Jordans_Nana
Posted:
2008-05-20 10:21 AM
Leah wants her daughter to be happy. However, she has missed the point of being a parent. She has chosen to indulge instead of train her daughter to be a loving, responsible person.

The parent is responsible for teaching children to respect others and to make good decisions. By setting limits and enforcing them, parents demonstrate their love for the child. There is plenty of time to play with children who are taught limits.

DebbieSch
Posted:
2008-05-20 10:51 AM
Unless Leah learns what setting boundaries means she is in for a LONG road. Win the battle or win the war!

suellenmarie
Posted:
2008-05-20 2:35 PM
gosh..sometimes I just can't believe the things people say..I think leah is a wonderful mother if she didn't care she wouldn't have asked for help..come on now I'm sure she has also set bounderies..and her beautiful little girl is not some animal that you "train" you show your kids love and respect and in return you hope they do the same and I truly think leah is showing her daughter lots of love and respect..and you can see in her daughters little face how much she loves her mom and respects her even if she is only 3 1/2..
really not sure you're 'posta put here..soo..just waving hello to all :o)
Just me,
Suellen Marie

Sweethart721
Posted:
2008-07-07 4:20 PM
I was astounded to see that her daughter still used a bottle.. Did she finally ween her off?

michellern02
Posted:
2008-08-14 10:16 AM
Well I do not even know where to begin because I am headed down the same path and I'd like to think that I am a great mother. I have a 2 1/2 year old girl named Kylie who still sleeps in our bed most of the time and request her baba frequently. She only wakes up about two times actually asking for a baba but she does request some during the day. I also find it hard to wean not only off the bottle but out of my bed. Sleep is overrated. I have tried several different approaches and found myself crying during the show because I am currently going through it. IT IS VERY HARD. I try to do the best I can with her and no I can't watch her cry so hard and long that she starts gasping or her lips turn a slight tinge of blue because she forgets to breathe. I think people who have had it easy with their children during "weans" should not be giving advice. Every child is different and each child has their own little thing that they want for comfort and I can't see taking that away from them. I am trying and I am also up for suggestions beacuse I feel the same way as Leah she will be 16 and still wanting her BABA. Michelle

mommyof46119
Posted:
2008-08-14 11:20 AM
I know exactly were Leah is coming from. When my oldest son was 2 1/2 he did not want to give up his baba,and like many people I thought if I put just water in the bottle it was ok. It's not.Iwent to the dentist with my son and he had 4 cavities all in his front teeth and yes he brushed all the time. The dentist told me it's not just what you put in the bottle its the nipple rubbing against the teeth that also has a huge impact it wears the enamel. I felt so bad. He never asked for a bottle again after that visit. he was afraid to give his teeth boo boos. But with all my other children i always introduced the sippy cup early eventually they didn't want the bottle and if they woke up at night i always put the sippy cup with water by the bedside that way they could take a sip but then go back to sleep.

runs4fun
Posted:
2008-08-15 7:58 AM
It is so hard to say no, but very necessary. Teaching children limits and being there for them while they learn to deal with frustration can be heartbreaking. Parenting does not always feel good. I have learned that it is okay to let them see that I am sad when delivering consequences. When they cry, sometimes I do, too. Then, I just hold them and say, "I don't like it either but this is what we have to do." It lets the children know that I don't enjoy being the heavy, but,sometimes, I have to be. The goal is to raise happy, independent, responsible adults. Sometimes, I have to look at the map and ask myself, "If I allow this, is it helping me get to my destination with them?" That bottle is just the beginning. But, Leah loves her Sophia and she had the guts to let cameras in her house and let the skeletons out of her closet. She knew that the bottle thing wasn't right. The thing is she has to learn to say, "no." Down the road there will be homework, sleepovers, friends, cars, boys. We have to say no and mean it now so we can use "no" later on. Good luck Leah.
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