You need to be real with yourself. There has to be some dirty little secret that you have. Nobody is perfect, we are all human. On top of that children don't see their parents as people, they see them as mom and dad. Mom and dad have names and they have another side of them aside from just being a parent, and as a person they need a little time to themselves, or they make up a reason the kid can't spend money the parents don't have to waste, and if you miss something like a soccer game, well guess what we tend to forget things and it's easier on your child if they think it was cancelled instead of thinking mom or dad just missed it.

telling the kid the game was cancelled? won't they find out the truth soon at school or from fiends? How can you lie about something liek that?

I have to agree that little white lies will come back to bite moms and dads in the end. It wasn't that long ago that I watched a Rachel Ray episode on which the subject was why kids lie and one of the conclusions was because they see parents doing it. No one is perfect (certainly not me), but lying to your kids is probably not a great idea. If you don't want to go to a soccer game, tell your kids you don't want to go. They will probably not be happy, but at least they won't find out from a friend that the game wasn't canceled and begin to believe that it's okay to lie because Mom does it.

When my mother inlaw comes to visit me and the kids we all hide in the bathroom, and when my husband tells me oh my mom said she came by but no one was home. I just say gee I wish I would have been home sorry I missed her.

When my mother inlaw comes to visit me and the kids we all hide in the bathroom, and when my husband tells me oh my mom said she came by but no one was home. I just say gee I wish I would have been home sorry I missed her.

I was really dismayed that Rachael Ray actually laughed and kept saying how she loved all these 'confessions'--many of them were bold-faced lies! How can you teach your children the value of honesty when you are setting such a poor example? Telling your child that a soccer game was canceled or that McDonald's was closed is not clever--it is cowardice on the parent's part. It may seem like an easy solution at the time, but the long-term results will be hard to overcome. Children need to learn how to cope with all of life's disappointments--parents need to stop taking all of the burden on themselves.
Also, what kind of marriage do you have when you can't even tell your husband that you're taking a yoga class?? If the husband found out that you lied about that, he may start to wonder what else you're keeping from him...a secret bank account...a secret lover...what next??
Bottom line--stop trying to avoid difficult situations by deceiving those that you love. Face up to them instead--your relationships will be stronger and you will become a stronger person

We once had a poster, "If you tell the truth, you'll never have to remember what you said." I totally agree with suep63. Some of the stories told were funny, but your family needs to know that when you tell them something, they can trust you. It's a good example for your children and it's what I expect from other people. The teen years and beyond are difficult enough without having taught your children that lying is a way out. It'll help keep them safe.

The mom who "couldn't face another soccer game" needs to realize that soccer is a TEAM sport, and by not taking her kids to the game, she is letting down the whole team. And McDonald's closed? Why not just tell your kids "No, you only get it once a week and you've already had it". Learn to tell your kids no instead of how to lie.

I believe all of you who have posted here are taking life a little too damn serious...I will say some of the confessions I heard made me say "what"? But there is always something that you do that isn't perfect and owning up to that is okay...you don't have to be that soccer mom perfect wifey...U all need to take a deep breathe back and relize that you are making your children life stressful.