There's a lot that comes with pregnancy: mood swings, weight gain, not knowing what to expect...and that's just what the dads go through! Michael Crider, author of The Guy's Guide to Surviving Pregnancy, Childbirth and the First Year of Fatherhood, turns his own experiences into reassuring and practical advice for these nervous hubbies.
Amanda: "My husband Patrick is clueless about what's going to happen during labor. He's freaked out about what's going to happen with my body and the baby. He doesn't know where to go or what to do. He's asking tons of questions...and I don't have time to think about that right now! He's stressing me out because I want a strong support with me who knows exactly what's going on. Why do I feel like he's the one who's going to need ice chips? What can I do to get him in the know?"
Michael: "I'd set up an appointment to just hang out with the doctor for an hour or so one-on-one so he could tell me some of the things that he's experienced during child birth. Let's face it -- he's been through this hundreds of times.
Also, with all the information that you have out there [doctors, books, the Internet], you should be prepared from the moment you hear "I'm pregnant" to being in that birthing room and taking care of business.
And make sure you know the route to the hospital and where to park before the big day comes."
Shane & Jodi, who already have a 3 1/2-year-old, are experiencing a problem they didn't have with the first pregnancy:
Shane: "I love my wife to death and want to be supportive, but it's really challenging -- the constant mood swings that rise to really extreme levels and emotional states. One minute we're happy and laughing and the next she's crying."
Jodi: "For a man to understand, it has to be a challenge. But I've put on all this weight, my back hurts, I'm not sleeping, I feel up and down. And then he comes home from work and I want to be nice and have dinner for him and be all wifey, but I'm done -- I'm spent. I don't have anything left."
Michael: "The same hormones that are causing her to freak out are the same ones that are helping her carry this baby. There are some very common sense solutions: Just be there for her -- listen to her if she wants to yell and complain. Hold her when she wants to be held, and get out of her way when she doesn't want to be held. If she wants to be alone, take her to another room and get her in another enviroment to decompress for a little bit."
Rachael's got one more question for Michael: Did he gain any 'sympathy weight' when his wife was pregnant?
"I definitely went through it. My wife has since lost her baby weight, but our son is now 7 and I still haven't lost an ounce! Some guys might want to be cautious."
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