"My mom definitely tries to control my life," says 41-year-old Martina, who would appreciate a bit less parenting at this point in her life. Her mom, Cathy, says her daughter means everything to her and admits, "She'll do things that irk me and that's when I can't seem to refrain." Martina is raising two daughters of her own and asks Dr. Phil to help them find a better balance. He suggests that Cathy trust that she did a wonderful job raising her daughter and hold back unless her daughter comes to her for guidance.

"If you see her heading for a terrible disaster you want to pipe in, but that's not what's happening. You're in there mothering this child because you apparently don't have anything else to do," he suggests. She jokes that she could use a job and he has an idea: "This is a great opportunity for me to do an absolutely shameless plug. Robin and I are national spokespersons for CASA, the court appointed special advocates that work with foster children. And you become an officer of the court, you are the one that stands with these children when they're in the system alone. You are able to give to them and help them and it is such an amazing gift you can't even imagine and I will hook you up if you need something to do!" Cathy says it sounds like a great idea and he offers one last piece of advice. "Give yourself credit. You raised a wonderful young woman and you need to sit back and admire how she's carried on your legacy and give her the chance to do it!"

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