The Millionaire Matchmaker Tackles Teen Dating Dilemmas
Patti Stanger, the no-nonsense, tough-talking cupid on Millionaire Matchmaker, is facing her biggest challenger yet: teenagers! Check out her advice below that could end your daughter's dating dilemmas for good:
How can I tell if a guy really likes me?
Ashlyn, 16, feels that she's getting mixed signals from the boy she likes, and is unsure whether or not they can be considered "boyfriend/girlfriend." Patti has a message for her and any other girl whose crush is reluctant to take on the "boyfriend" label. "Girls, retain your power," she instructs. "If it’s not him, it’s somebody else. There’s not only one fish in the sea." Patti adds that Ashlyn needs to focus on herself as well. "You need to start getting busy with the things that interest you. Fill up your time, and when he knows that he can’t get a hold of you, he will make that date."
Patti suggests that Ashlyn cut back on the texting she does with the boy: "If he has to get hold of you, he needs to call you now. Do not respond to texting anymore. He’ll get the message, he’ll call you. He’s going to want to hear your voice."
How do I get over being shy around guys?
Angelique, 17, desperately wants to get past the sweaty palms and butterflies that come with approaching the opposite sex. Patti admits that she used to also get quiet and nervous around guys, and shares how she handled it. "I learned to become friends with guys first and hang out with them and learn their likes and dislikes," she says, "so I started to feel comfortable in my own skin before the great boyfriend came along in high school. You need to learn how to get easy breezy with them and when you can be that best friend to a guy you like, that’s the boyfriend."
How do I get a guy to pay more attention to me without sounding needy?
Liana, 16, is frustrated that the boy she likes seems to spend more time with his guy friends than with her. Patti explains, "You can never demand more attention from a man than a man can give. You have to get busy because you’re now all in and he’s not all invested. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you - he just needs his friends for three quarters of the time and you’re a quarter. You want to flip that, so the way you flip it is you get busy. We want to set the precedent right now so it’s easy breezy for you now, so later on when the right guy shows up, you know exactly what to do."
Rachael asks Patti is there is a piece of advice that moms can impart to their sons. "Teach them manners," she replies. "Manners are free. I am really anti these boys walking around thinking they can just walk all over women. Whenever I picked a guy to date it was always the guy that opened the car door, paid the valet, basically calls in advance for a date and made sure when he picked me up in high school, he came to the door to meet my parents - he didn’t text me to say, 'I’m outside.' That’s rude and that’s a sign that he’s not a gentleman and that’s not going to change."


