Any single woman will tell you that it's tougher than ever to meet the right man, so Rachael is turning to TV's hottest matchmaker, Steven Ward, for everything you need to know to find Mr. Right! Just brace yourself for some honest truths: "I'm here to tell women not what they want to hear, but what they need to hear to find a good guy," says the star of VH1's Tough Love. "Most people are somewhat unrealistic when it comes to relationships and they have these ideals that may not apply."

What does Steve think every woman can do to improve their chances of meeting someone great? Get his tips as he heads out for the night with three women in their 20s, 30s and 40s to revamp their approaches to dating.

Dating in your 20s. Sara recently moved to New York from Los Angeles and says she's constantly meeting guys who try to get her to go home with them on their first date. "You can't blame a guy for trying," Steven jokes, explaining that it's normal for guys to want to test the limits. He suggests giving these bachelors a chance, while setting some limits. "It's ultimately up to you to kind of put the brakes on things a little bit, and I think the women across the country should make men work for it a little bit! You don't want to tell him he's working for it -- men don't want to feel like they're jumping through hoops -- but you're pulling all the strings here, ladies. You're ultimately in control until the clothes come off so you may as well have some fun with it!"

Dating in your 30s. "I'm 35 years old, I thought I would be married with children by now ... I'm not," laments Maria, who admits she hasn't put herself out there in a while. Steve encourages her to be more forward and be very clear about what she is looking for when she meets a man. "Let him know that you're interested and ask him straight up: Are you single? Are you available? Because a lot of men may actually take your interest and not reveal the fact that they're seeing somebody already, so you need to get that out of the way."

Dating in your 40s. Single mom Denise has been married twice, but says she has yet to find true love. As she summons the courage to get out there and flirt, Steven says there's a common pitfall for women at this age. "We often hear women say that they intimidate men," Steve says. "Personally, I feel that unless you're wielding an axe, a knife, or a gun you're not going to be intimidating me. What that really means is that men don't feel like there's a need for them in your life, that you have everything that you could want, and that you don't need them for anything. And men have to feel needed. They need to feel like your life is better off with them than without them."

After sharing these specific dating tips, Rachael asks Steven for some general pointers that every woman can use as they head out on a date. "When you're first meeting somebody, you don't want to be negative. You want to keep the conversation very positive; you want to have a smile on your face. You don't want to start debating on a first date, so stay away from religion, politics, personal finance. [You] definitely don't want to bring up past relationships or anything like that. Avoid too much information too soon," he advises. "More importantly than anything else is just be positive and have fun. It's supposed to be fun!"

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